THIS FALL has certainly started out as one of true change for me as my mother of 88 years just passed away. Though she was elderly and you always know that one day you’ll lose your mother, everybody does eventually, I can honestly say that I was just not ready.
Looking back, and I have been doing plenty of that with her passing, I felt changes coming in early September, and though I paused to contemplate those feelings of coming change, I never imagined this. I thought life was getting me ready for different changes and maybe some new life lessons.
But this season has taught me a lot about …
Feeling completely lost and then strangely found.
The pain of hopelessness and then wonderful budding hope.
Having to let go and feeling oddly weightless before the crushing relief of finding some sure footing again.
NOW IS THE TIME FOR COMFORT, to give in to that pull for comfort, comfortable spaces, comfort food, and comfortable writing. Retreating to your comfort zone brings a welcomed solace and quality time to recharge and breath.
APPRECIATE THE GOODNESS, WARMTH AND COMFORT IN YOUR LIFE. Take pleasure in routine and the things that are familiar. They bring a wonderful sense of comfort and reassurance that life continues on and everyone moves in their own way.
FEEL GOOD WHERE YOU ARE. Make it beautiful. Make it comfortable. Make it cozy. Surround yourself with your creature comforts.
NOURISH YOUR SOUL. Bring warm and happiness to your heart with familiar things, music and meditations.
LIVE IN THE MOMENT (when your mind races forward and goes crazy with too many thoughts of what if, maybe I should have, why didn’t I, someday I could) bring yourself back to right now and appreciate every day before slowly creeping forward toward a new reality.
3 Ways to bring yourself back to the present.
Adult colouring pages if you have the time to sit and clear your mind.
Crossword puzzles, word searches and other mind puzzles, will bring your thoughts back and focused on something right here and now.
Take stock of five things around you and name them: tree, park bench, stop sign, yellow car, sleeping dog. Sometimes it might take naming ten things, or just three to bring yourself out of a thought spin and back to the present.
MOVE FORWARD – Bullet journal to reflect and find direction.
I don’t know what kind of changes life has whirl winded through your soul, but know that hygge can bring you some balance. Life without your mom, the woman who was just always there, when far away, is now…gone. It’s time to change and live in a new reality, one that can be made beautiful, secure, comfortable and safe.
DO NOT BE AFRAID to create a new comfort zone.
MULLED WINE and CHOCOLATE CHIP COOKIE RECIPES
- 1 bottle of sweet red wine
- ½ bottle of brandy, Cointreau or Triple Sec
- 1 orange
- 1 lemon
- Handful of cloves to spike the orange and lemon
- A few cinnamon sticks
- Pinch of mace
- Sugar and water (simple syrup) OR maple syrup
POUR liquids into a heavy pot on the stove. Low heat.
SPIKE the orange and lemon with clove, then cut zest strips and add to pot.
ADD cinnamon sticks and mace.
TURN up the heat but do not boil.
ADD simple or maple syrup to taste.
SERVE hot in a glass.
Chocolate Chip Twix Cookies
- 1 cup butter
- ½ cup white sugar
- 1 ½ cups brown sugar
- 1 ½ tsp vanilla
- 2 ½ cups flour
- 1 tsp baking soda
- 1 tsp baking powder
- 2 cups milk chocolate chips
- 2 packages of Twix bars, cut into small pieces
COMBINE wet ingredients and fold into mixed dry ingredients.
ADD chipits and Twix pieces.
ROLL mix into small balls, and bake 9-10 minutes at 350 degrees.
FIND a book and comfy blanket.
Read. Sip. Chew. Repeat….